We are also excited to see our California friends as we will be introducing them to a very special person- Max! Max and Al are coming with us in November for Max's transplant evaluation. We will be there Sunday through Thursday and it is going to be a very busy and draining week for Max and us. We have a lot of testing to do in terms of scans and blood work for Max and Al and he also have several consults or meetings with specialists. The tests are part of the normal transplant work up- things that Addie and I went through to make sure there are no problems that we can foresee. The specialists are part of the complicated process of trying to work out if transplant now is really the best thing for Max. We are meeting with Pulmonology about his airway to ensure that a few days on a ventilator is not going to compromise his airway. His airway is SOOO much better than it was and he has not turned blue in months. The last time we had to bag him or force his airway open with our equipment was Feb!!! But better may not necessarily mean completely okay and so we need to make sure that a lengthy extubation and likely fluid retention and puffiness in the days following surgery will not injure his fragile airway.
The other specialist we will be seeing is neurology. As most of you know, following an abnormal MRI of his brain, we spent an exhuasting and difficult few months early this year meeting with genetics and neurology here in Texas. After lots of testing, Max was diagnosed with brain damage due to hypoxia, or oxygen deprivation, and it was decided that there did not seem to be an underlying genetic condition contributing to his neurological issues. Before transplant, however, we are going to meet with a new team in California and address these conclusions and have the opportunity for a second opinion. We will address how his neurological issues could impact recovery from transplant and ensure there are not significant risk factors being posed. We are so fortunate to be able to see some of the brighest and most amazing doctors at Stanford and to be able to get more input on Max. Having said that, we do go into these meetings and this week of testing with a fair degree of dread. Discussing Max's disabilities and prognosis is emotional and stressful and knowing that the issues discussed in these meeting will be part of the decision regarding when/if we transplant Max definitely adds some extra pressure to the situation. But in the end, we completely trust our team at Stanford and we know that they will reach the best conclusion for Max.
So... we face all of that Nov 12-15 in California. My mom is coming with the four of us which will be so wonderful because it means Addie will not have to go to all the meetings and I can focus on helping the boys. It will be a busy stressful week so please keep us in your prayers. The wonderful thing is that we come back Thursday night and Friday my best friend Hannah arrives! All the way from Australia! With precious Heidi! We are so happy that there is a big huge bright light waiting for us at the end of the long week. She and Heidi will be with us for 9 days over Thanksgiving week. So I will have 9 days off with my family, including Adam, and Hannah and Heidi! I will get the chance to laugh and unwind before we head into an even more crazy December...
If Stanford does decide Max is ready for transplant, which we certainly hope and suspect he is... then we have a 'pencilled in' surgery date for him of December 11. We pretty much live with Plan A, Plan B at the moment. Plan A is that we transplant Max in December and Plan B is that we do not. We are going forward as if Plan A is going to happen, even though we know there is a chance it will not. But with Plan A, Al's mom and dad arrive from Australia in CA on Dec 9. Al, Max and I will meet them there that same day. Addie will stay in Texas with my parents and no doubt enjoy getting thoroughly spoiled. She loves her days at their house so she will be well taken care of. Al and Max would have surgery on the 11th and my in laws and I would take care of the boys. Although there was some nervousness going into my surgery, I definitely think my anxiety and dread is higher knowing I'll be the caregiver rather than the donor. I have a newfound appreciation for what my mom did for Addie and I as I prepare to take on caring for my boys.
On December 21, my parents will bring Addie out to California, just in time for their 2nd birthday! We would spend Christmas with my parents and brother and Al's parents and feel very blessed to have this unique opportunity to spend the holidays with both of our families. We would all stick around for a while and after the first week in January, Addie and I would return to Texas for me to go back to work while the boys continue to recover in CA until some time in February.
It will be a scary and intense couple of months but I know it'll be ok. After all, we've been through some pretty scary stuff. And we survived. Last December we spent 3 weeks in the PICU with Addie losing dialysis access and having to go on Hemo. It was unknown and scary and exhausting but we made it and she is in this completely better place. So I figured we handled 3 scary PICU weeks last December so this December, we can handle whatever Max needs us to. Especially when it is all for the amazing goal of a dialysis free life for us and that is definitely going to make it all worthwhile.
And as for Plan B, well... we'll just deal with that if it comes to it. It may mean just waiting some time, it may mean making some changes but whatever it means, we can always come to terms with that if we have to. But since we are hoping and praying for Plan A, we're focusing our practical and emotional energy on preparing for that!
Stay tuned for more updates, especially in November when we have had Max's eval and we know for sure what is happening. We would really appreciate prayer and support over the coming weeks as we prepare for our week in California in November.
And to end with... some cute fall photos...
